Self-Help

Conflict in faith settings can feel especially awkward (or even painful). Reaching out to resolve a misunderstanding can bring healing, but without humility and care, it can make things worse. Here are a few ideas for finding peace when things get sticky: Helpful: Ask ahead of time: “Can we talk? I have a concern.” Choose a calm time and place, and approach the conversation with steady words and open body language. Not helpful ↓ Springing an emotionally charged conversation o

I thought I was taking my fears to God, but something was missing—because I often felt more anxious after praying. Gethsemane by Jorge Cocco It sounds terrible to say, "I feel worse after praying." Especially considering this verse: God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. —2 Timothy 1:7   If that’s true, then how could prayer bring anxiety instead of peace? For a long time, I didn’t know. Sometimes, I stopped pray

Loving God and being fully invested in our worship and service at church doesn’t prevent flawed interactions between imperfect people. Sometimes, resolving conflict is easy. Other times, it’s not—and it may even require a radical change of heart or perspective. Beautiful artwork @kaylouisedoodles 10 Ways to Respond When Loving Someone at Church Feels Hard 1.   God knows all the details of hurtful situations—friends don’t. He can help us know when to ask for forgiveness, set b